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Friday, 10 April 2015 17:08

Learning Ways of Teaching Children from Great Love Mothers’ Nurturing Class

Written by  Lee Lay Sim, KL& Selangor / Translated by Jacqueline Khoo

Lessons for this year’s 12th Great Love Mothers’ Nurturing Class were held at three different places, namely, the KL Tzu-Chi Jing Si Hall, Puchong and Sg Long Community Centres, which attracted a total turnout of 209 participants. [Photograph by Wong Mun Heng]

The first lesson of the 12th Great Love Mothers’ Nurturing Class organized by KL & Selangor commenced with the “It is good knowing you” session that goes: “It is good knowing you, as you give me heart-warming smiles when I am down. It is good knowing you, as you give me warm-hearted hugs when I am sad.” The session brought everyone closer with a lively atmosphere.


 
Active recruitment via various channels
 
On April 10 2015, the first lesson of the 12th Great Love Mothers’ Nurturing Class had officially started! To invite more to participate, the Education Group had actively recruited participants through various channels, be it at the community level, in schools, Jing-Si Books & Café, Da Ai kindergartens, and even through the Parent-child Bonding Class.
 
This year’s lessons were held at three different places, namely the KL Tzu-Chi Jing Si Hall, Puchong and Sg Long Community Centres, which attracted a turnout of 209 people.
 
The Great Love Mothers’ Nurturing Class had 12 lessons in total, covering Tzu Chi’s origin, happy life talks, Jing Si Aphorism Teaching Method, the beauty of etiquette, lessons on nutrition for better health and mind, and so on. The lessons also included hands-on activities and group activities, not only to make learning more interesting, but also hoping to leave a deeper impact.
 
Teaching children according to their aptitude
 
When educating children, should parents take the lead and give suitable guidance, or should they stay at the back and be the strongest backup?
 
During the game “Descendants of the Dragon”, participants were split into several groups and blindfolded. While standing in a line with their hands on the shoulder of the person in front, they had to carefully listen to the “Dragon Head”, who was in front without blindfold, for guidance to move along the path laid out by paper cups as obstacles.
 
Fearing that they might kick the obstacles, everyone followed the person in front carefully and nervously; and there were even shrieks from time to time. After the first round, the last person in the group – “Dragon Tail” – guided the group back to the starting point.
 
Participant Chen Mei Wei felt that the role of Dragon Head was relatively easier. She said, “Most important thing is the direction. When the Head’s direction is right, people at the back can catch up easily. Just like in life, even though we are facing difficulties, if we have the right direction, we can easily walk out of them.”
 
On the other hand, participant Chen Jin Hua was of the opinion that being at the front was tough for the Dragon Head, “He only sees the front. Although he is clear about the direction and moves towards it, there is a possibility of neglecting the lost members behind.” As such, Jin Hua felt that the Dragon Head should be placed at the back so that he could see clearly and adjust accordingly.”
 
Participant Yang Xiao Wei stated that when she closed her eyes, she felt there were always obstacles in front of her and hence, was afraid. However, she felt secure when there were instructions.
 
Xiao Wei elaborated, “I realized that it is the same with our children. Sometimes they want to perform well for us, but they could not gauge what is ahead of them. And if they encounter difficulties and cannot get their parents’ understanding and encouragement, they will inevitably be nervous and scared. Thus, as parents, we should think for them more, accompany them more and guide them to the right path, so that they will feel at ease and calm.” 
 
Participant Liu Cui Yan shared that, when educating children, parents have to be flexible. When the children are still young, parents should be walking in front guiding them onto the right path, but they must never forget to stop once in a while to check if their children are keeping up or not.
 
Parents should also allow some space for their children to make their own decision. When the children eventually grow up, parents should learn to let go, and stay behind to observe. When they go astray, parents should immediately give proper guidance to bring them back on track.
 
“Give your children confidence and motivation, do not worry, and let them walk their own path. Parents’ role is to accompany, support, and wish the best for their children. I believe there are no children who cannot be taught; it just takes different ways,” Cui Yan added.
 
View a chipped cup from another angle
 
Volunteer Ng Cheng Wee shared his way of educating his children in an interesting way that drew laughter from the classroom. Once, when he was collecting his daughter’s school results, he was reminded by the latter not to be angry. He then thought to himself, “I will praise her as long as there is improvement.”
 
But to his disappointment, all her grades turned out to be worse off. Instead of getting angry, Cheng Wee encouraged his daughter, “You have two improvements this time, your height and your weight.” His daughter was shocked, “Are these considered improvements?”
 
Cheng Wee’s positive attitude was admired by the teachers in school. He said, “If we look at a chipped cup from a different angle, it will still be round.”
 
With four children with different learning ability, character and interests, he chose to adjust his mindset, change himself and use love to overcome obstacles in accompanying his children to find their directions in life.
 
Volunteer Ng See Seong also shared the story of him growing together with his son. To save his son from his addiction to video games, he turned his worries and scolding to finding various alternatives. The journey was not easy, but he never gave up. His determination and patience was truly admired by others.
 
Since her son was diagnosed with serious autism, volunteer Koh Yean Ping searched high and low for all related information. Feeling bitter about the helplessness of medicine, and thinking that she is well-versed in Buddhism, she prayed for her son. But, it was in vain. She became depressed; and her situation was made worse by the strange views and sympathies from others.
 
It was after joining Tzu Chi and participating in the visit to Taman Sinar Harapan Kuala Kubu Bharu, a home for physically and/or mentally disabled, that she realized her own blessings. She also came to understand the Karmic Law of Cause and Effect and finally saw the light on the path of suffering.
 
She cried on the way home only to be welcomed home by her son with a big smile. She broke down when her son called her “mum”. Her son’s beautiful voice was like a bright light shining into her heart. Since then, she has stopped complaining and instead started accompanying her child happily. Her life is now full of joy and laughter.
 
When there is a will, there is a way
 
When volunteer Liao Mei Ling handed in the form to join the Great Love Mothers’ team, her aim was to learn more since she is not highly educated. Besides, she also faced transportation problems whenever she wanted to go for classes. “I guess my will must be so strong that I managed to get help. Coincidentally, another volunteer, who stays near my house, is willing to pick me up for classes.”
 
Team assistant, Tang Tong Peng, relocated from Johor to Kepong, Kuala Lumpur, in 2014, to take care of her grandchild studying at the Kepong Da Ai kindergarten, where she is also a “Loving Mother”. As it was her first time being an assistant, she felt stressed and worried that she could not meet the expectations. However, with another assistant’s care and help, she managed to build up her confidence. She said, “I am happy taking up this role. Apart from helping others, it is a personal development for me. I feel joyful.”
 
 

 
Through the game “Descendants of the Dragon”, parents were left to ponder: When educating children, should they lead in front and give suitable guidance, or should they stay at the back and be the strongest backup? [Photograph by Chua Geak Sim]   Chen Mei Wei felt that when the Head’s direction is right, people at the back can keep up easily. [Photograph by Wong Mun Heng]

Through the game “Descendants of the Dragon”, parents were left to ponder: When educating children, should they lead in front and give suitable guidance, or should they stay at the back and be the strongest backup? [Photograph by Chua Geak Sim]
 
Chen Mei Wei felt that when the Head’s direction is right, people at the back can keep up easily. [Photograph by Wong Mun Heng]
 
Liew Cui Yan stated that parents should occasionally be the “Dragon Head” or the “Dragon Tail” from time to time. [Photograph by Wong Mun Heng]   Ng Cheng Wee shared his story in educating his children, drawing much laughter from the participants. [Photograph by Wong Mun Heng]

Liew Cui Yan stated that parents should occasionally be the “Dragon Head” or the “Dragon Tail” from time to time. [Photograph by Wong Mun Heng]
 
 
Ng Cheng Wee shared his story in educating his children, drawing much laughter from the participants. [Photograph by Wong Mun Heng]
 
Ng See Seong shared his story of growing up with his son and exercising wisdom in guiding the latter away from video games. [Photograph by Chua Lee Pin]   Thinking that she is well-versed in Buddhism, Koh Yean Ping had travelled around to pray for her autistic son. [Photograph by Chua Geak Sim]

Ng See Seong shared his story of growing up with his son and exercising wisdom in guiding the latter away from video games. [Photograph by Chua Lee Pin]
 
 
Thinking that she is well-versed in Buddhism, Koh Yean Ping had travelled around to pray for her autistic son. [Photograph by Chua Geak Sim]
 
Team assistant, Tang Tong Peng, recommended some good books from Tzu Chi publications, and encouraged the participants to have a read. [Photograph by Wong Mun Heng]    

Team assistant, Tang Tong Peng, recommended some good books from Tzu Chi publications, and encouraged the participants to have a read. [Photograph by Wong Mun Heng]