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Sunday, 09 November 2014 00:00

Homecoming Celebration for Graduates of Parents-child Bonding Class

Written by  Goh Xue Ni, Klang / Translated by Goh Hong Wee

A kiss from the parents can be amazing to the kids who are growing up. During the graduation ceremony of Parent-child Bonding Class of Tzu Chi Klang, a child gave a broad grin after getting a gift of love from his parents. [Photograph by Lee Eng Foo]

Students from Parent-child Bonding Class of five Tzu Chi community centres in Klang celebrated their graduation ceremony in the brand new premises of Tzu Chi Klang. This has not only put a perfect ending to the eight lessons of humanistic education that they attended in 2014 , but also left a touch of unforgettable memories in their life.


 
Right from birth, children are the darlings of their parents. As time passes, the way parents educate their children has somewhat changed. One small action or gentle word may hurt the children indirectly. When the children grow up gradually, the way parents communicate with their children has also changed.
 
For a young plant to grow strongly, it depends on the efforts used to irrigate the plant. A child is like the plant. When there is lack of love and companionship, there will be a gap. Today’s parents and children are lacking and in need of this love and companionship. When the child is rebellious or demonstrates deviant behaviour, this often makes the parents feel helpless.
 
In order to implement a holistic education and to develop a broad bearing, Tzu Chi has organized Tzu Shao (Tzu Chi Teenagers’ Group), Tzu Ching (Tzu Chi Collegiate Youth Association) and Parent-child Bonding Class. This not only allows busy parents to attend the class with their children, but also enables them to learn to understand their children and to get along and communicate with them.
 
New home for joint graduation
 
“Let us welcome you with our clapping hands. Welcome to Tzu Chi! Your smiles are sweet and adorable. I wish you happiness every day...” Lined up in two rows, volunteers sang this ‘Welcome Song’ on a Sunday morning to cheer and welcome “home” the parents and children from the bonding class of five community centres. The atmosphere was full of warmth and joy.
 
In the past, graduation ceremonies were held at the respective community centres. But, on November 9, 2014, a joint graduation ceremony was held at the 400-capacity premises of Tzu Chi Klang. Organized by its educational team, this Klang event witnessed the attendance of 257 students together with their parents from Taman Eng Ann Community Centre, Taman Sentosa Community Centre, Bandar Botanic Community Centre, Taman Gembira Community Centre and Banting Community Centre.
 
The bonding class, which is held on the second Sunday of each month, is like an “agreement” between the parents and the children. But this event was special. Although the bonding class was coming to an end, everyone treasured the affinity of attending the ceremony with the children from different communities.They sang the class anthem together, and also reflected on the past one year through videos, recalling touching and happy moments.
 
At the event, Teacher Lu Su Wei’s story was screened. In it, she said, “There are no stupid children, only kids with different levels of intelligence. There are no children who could not learn well, only children who learn through different methods.” Parenting with love will help children go on the right track and make the right choice. Regardless of what happens, have positive thoughts always. The children could be wrong sometimes, and the same applies to the parents, who have the responsibility of instilling in their children the right values towards creating an exceptional life.
 
In the video, Teacher Lu also shared his stumbling journey in his studies. However, his parents and family never gave up on him. Instead, they stood by him looking to the future with hope. Parents’ attitudes can boost a child’s confidence, as every child is unique and the uniqueness is the child’s incomparable asset.
 
Innate kindness in every adult and kid
 
“My child has many shortcomings in my view. I always feel that as long as he follows my way, that is the right way,” said Chen Li Hui, a parent, in the sharing session.
 
She felt her son, Liang Ming Hao, was not very well-behaved and was irritating. Two years ago, she enrolled him for the bonding class, on the agreement that her husband accompanied their son to the class. However, after seeing positive changes in her husband and their child, she decided to accompany her son to experience the magical changes.
 
Li Hui shared shyly, “When my husband told me that Ming Hao is actually very obedient and even receives praises from the volunteers, my response was: Well, that is because Tzu Chi people speak only  kind words.” This drew laughter from all present.
 
Nevertheless, Li Hui followed her son to the class. On the eighth lesson, she admitted the bonding class had been fruitful, particularly looking from a different angle and learning to be empathetic. With empathy for her child, she learnt to understand and admire her child’s qualities. As the saying goes, parents are children’s role models. Li Hui has thus joined the ranks of the Great Love Mothers, to learn and grow together with her child. She added, “I need to be a step forward in order to guide him towards the right direction in life.”
 
Eleven-year-old student, Xie Zi Yan, has learnt to be understanding and accommodating. Initially, Zi Yan was reluctant to attend the class and had even tried to avoid it by pretending to sleep or telling his parents that his uniform was not ready and so on. But, after participating in the sutra adaptation performance in the Year-end Blessing Ceremony last year, he began looking forward to the class, became interested in the monthly topics, and started listening to the teachings attentively. This is his final year and his second participation in the programme.
 
With a change in mindset, Zi Yan has followed the volunteers to the orphanage to care for the kids, and even assumed the task of recording recycling activities of volunteers and his parents for sweet remembrance. He said, “Apart from the theory and knowledge, one needs to put the Dharma into practice to establish good affinities with others. Let me quote a phrase from Jing Si Aphorisms: Be grateful at every moment and everywhere, for everyone and everything.”
 
From finding excuses to participating happily, the little Zi Yan surprised the adults by enlightening them that a harvest of values requires an effort in sowing.
 
 
The graduation ceremony of Parent-child Bonding Class offered the parents a chance to recognize their children’s effort, give them encouragement and appreciation, thus enabling the children to go all out to do their best and unleash their potentials. The half-day ceremony ended with a camera “click”, drawing the event to a close in a perfect way.
 
 
Before the event began, the Masters of Ceremony broke the ice by introducing each community centre which received an overwhelming response. Participants raised their hands when their centre was mentioned. [Photograph by Lee Eng Foo]   From doubt to belief, parent Chen Li Hui (right) is happy that her relationship with her son, Ming Hao, has improved after attending the class. [Photograph by Lee Eng Foo]

Before the event began, the Masters of Ceremony broke the ice by introducing each community centre which received an overwhelming response. Participants raised their hands when their centre was mentioned. [Photograph by Lee Eng Foo]
 
From doubt to belief, parent Chen Li Hui (right) is happy that her relationship with her son, Ming Hao, has improved after attending the class. [Photograph by Lee Eng Foo]
 
Students happily showed their drawings on ideal happiness.[Photograph by Lee Eng Foo]   Everyone was awed by eleven-year-old Xie Zi Yan’s changed behaviour after participating in the bonding class. [Photograph by Lee Eng Foo]

Students happily showed their drawings on ideal happiness.[Photograph by Lee Eng Foo]
 
 
Everyone was awed by eleven-year-old Xie Zi Yan’s changed behaviour after participating in the bonding class. [Photograph by Lee Eng Foo]
 
The half-day ceremony drew to a close with a camera “click” featuring the group photo of all the graduates. [Photograph by Lee Eng Foo]    

The half-day ceremony drew to a close with a camera “click” featuring the group photo of all the graduates. [Photograph by Lee Eng Foo]